The Reality Inside The Ideal

Recently,I've had a few friends who faced quite a few problems,regardless of whether they shared it with me anot.Strangely,when I heard or see them having problems,I have this strange feeling inside me that goes along with how they feel.I do not know how or why.Maybe it's how i treat them as friends,or maybe it's just a part of me that I do not even know,even to the extent that this is part of human nature.


However,The main thing is not about my feelings.It's about how people can find others and talk in the normal way even though so much has happened to them in their lives.Some will say that they have already learnt and grown from it,some will say that it is always something in their heart that they can never put down.Strangely,when we look at these,don't everybody find that we have went through BOTH of the feelings?We have grown and learnt from them,yet it is still something that we are keeping in our heart.What a contradiction it is in our lives that we are all experiencing exactly the same things.Yet we do not know that our feelings are the same.We all go through different things,yet at these different points in life we face difficulties,and at these points we learn what we do not know in life.These learning becomes part of our lives,and we grow from them,but not showing it to others in life.Strange right?We always hear people lamenting that their lives are the worst even though we are seeing them fine everyday.Yet when we see those who have terminal illnesses not doing the same thing,and we know that these patients are the real people who need those care and concerns.


Yet another thing.For every minor thing that happened to us,we grow from it.By right we should look different,feel different,give off a different feeling.However,when we look at everyone around us,how many of us are actually very very different in lives?Strangely,when we all say that we have grown,we have actually not grown externally,but we are growing internally,mentally,emotionally,etc.Putting this in my own perspective,shouldn't we be like giving ourselves our fullest in letting other people know that we have changed?Yet,people always look at each other knowing that they have changed yet do not even know where they have changed.Great feeling to know that we have all changed right?Yet,there are still people who not only do they NOT grow and learn from it,they actually ran away from the problem.Then when the time comes for them to really face it,they lament that they are the worst people in their lives and then scold everything in the world except for themselves.Don't this sound very familiar to many people right now,even myself in this case?We always try to push everything to the last minute and then tell everyone that it is not their fault that all those things happened.Why is that so?How i wish i can find out the reason.